Well, in case you were wondering, she's not really doing either. We set the ground rules -- she had to try a bite of everything on her plate. If not, no dessert. It worked wonders the first night. That was about it.
I won't say she is starving. She eats breakfast and lunch everyday along with a snack at school (thought she knows if she doesn't eat her lunch she won't get a snack either. Yeah, her teacher must think I'm crazy. But anyway...) and another snack after school. Sure, there are nights that she complains that she is hungry but we have held firm to the rules. You should see her excitement when she asks wheat we are having for dinner and I tell her pizza or something else she likes. It's a free ticket on the dessert train!!
Since there has been NO progress with getting her to eat new things, I'm considering revising the rules and going back to short order cook (*sigh*). Give her what she will eat each meal with a little of what we are having and if she eats ALL of dinner and tries a bite she gets dessert.
I'm not sure what else to do.