Tuesday, November 27, 2012

The stand - night one

It was a mixed day.

At lunch I served my daughter the chicken nuggets and applesauce she didn't eat the night before. Yet again, she hemmed and hawed and didn't eat. The consequence was no snack/drink for school. It was a risk having her be the only one in her pre-k class without a snack, but actions have consequences. I even put a note in her backpack so the teacher would know what was going on and not give her a snack from her stash.

When I picked her up from school, she immediately asked for a snack. I told her that was fine as long as I chose the snack. A handful of grapes were eaten faster than I've ever seen.

At dinner, she really resisted. There was one thing on her plate I knew she'd eat -- diced pears -- but the chicken pockets and mixed veggies were new. I'm not sure what flipped the switch for her (maybe me telling her how she would never try pizza but then when she did she loved it) but sure enough, she tried both and liked both. She had about 5 bites of each. Not a lot, but it's a start.

Trying not to get my hopes up!

The stand

Anyone who's ever had a meal with my daughter knows that she's the world's pickiest eater. I'm not saying that she arrived to that all on her own -- I know that I had a lot to do with it in raising her. I probably should've pushed more of a variety of foods (especially when she couldn't talk) and been stricter with her trying new things. But all the woulda, coulda, shouldas won't change it.

Shes always taken a long time to eat as well. To get her out of the door by noon, lunch is served at 11:15.

Now we've reached a new problem with eating. She's gotten very specific about what bowls, plates, and silverware she'll use.

Last night it hit the pinnacle. She wouldn't eat the four chicken nuggets and apple sauce that she specifically asked for. Why? Because I had moved a toy away from her on the table so she'd focus on eating and not playing.

It was the last straw. After being put in timeout for not eating, she was told no more food for the rest the day. While she was in timeout, my husband and I discussed how this is an ongoing issue that needs solved. I may have put my foot my mouth with this one, but I told her when she came back downstairs from here on out she is going to eat what is served. No more short order cook meals.

This morning, she had cereal. I put in the bowl and give her her spoon. Because her brother had the same kind of bowl, it became another battle. "This is a baby bowl. I'm not going to eat from it."

Ugh. Wish me luck.

Saturday, November 10, 2012

Enjoy the Moment

Motherhood is a multi-tasking adventure. (News flash, right? Ha ha) On top of mom duties, there's wife duties, and household duties. Most days it's a manageable flow. Semi-predictable.

But then things happen like your 19-month old suddenly stop sleeping through the night. Then bigger things happen like friends and family losing power, losing cars, losing homes.

Suddenly you remember your life. Not the bills or the groceries or the screen full of game reminders. The moments if real life. Snuggling with your kids instead if answering an email. Enjoying an electronics free dinner talking and laughing about the day. Making simple construction paper crafts. Enjoying the silence of your home, the one you still have that is full of food and electricity and laughter and live, even if its because you were woken up at 1am.

I've seen people who have gotten wrist tattoos that say "breathe" to help them remember to keep calm and keep it all in perspective. Because I have little kids, my reminder is to enjoy the moment. Put down the phone, focus on what's going on around me and enjoy it. As people are fond if saying, they don't stay this little forever.

My wonderfully talented friend (and fellow Jersey girl and Army wife) Wendy made me a custom bracelet to help me remember to enjoy the moment. Here's hoping there are plenty of moments to enjoy.

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